Most of you will read this and be aghast. Some might be terrified, horrified, and even traumatized by the words. The shame of suicide means that even when we talk about it we try to evade, dissuade, distract, and somehow avoid the cold hard truth. That it comes to all of us. And only a handful have the opportunity to control and decide their final outcome. The rest of us either revel in our lives and love them so much that we never want to die, or, like myself, are cowards who don't know why they pull back. I don't know what keeps me from that final leap. What stops me from holding my hand to the fire. But it makes me ashamed. Ashamed that I think about it. Ashamed that I lack the conviction to go through with it. Ashamed to tell anyone that I wish I wasn't so afraid. Ashamed to tell people that I want to die. And don't. And those that have never been there can't possibly understand. What it means to stand on that edge, and walk away disgusted with yo
So I may have collected poisonous flowers from a mass of wildflowers on an unmarked grave under the hanging tree in the cemetery of an old Indian Mission Chapel with a long and violent history. And I may have accidentally brought home some of the grave soil that they came in when I was just trying to make sure they're happy in their new homes. I am not a witch. I swear. I just realized afterwards that I probably would have been put to death by that same little church had I done this 150 years ago. Good gardening feels so much like witchcraft sometimes... Watching the seasons closely. Hearing the rain. Waiting for life to happen on its own. Coaxing it along when you can... or collecting Siberian Squill from the local cemetery to plant in your wildflower garden. In the 1800s and early 1900s this church was used as the parish building for one of the most brutal residential schools on Vancouver Island. I don't think they would have been happy with me 'meddling' lo